This is also true of couples who may have been married before. If a previous marriage ended in divorce, we want to try to help the couple to learn something that may keep them from making the same mistakes again.
Sometimes the minister conducts special classes or has a series of conversations with just the couple. At other times couples from several congregations attend special classes together. A variety of leaders speak on different subjects such as financial planning, relationships, communication and sexuality.
There are no particular rules in the ELCIC about whom we may marry and whom we may not marry. It's usually left with the pastor to decide.
Although the Bible says that Jesus recognized adultery as the only grounds for divorce, many of us take the position that some marriages are better ended to stop a lot of pain and misery. We also feel that divorced people should have the chance to try again.